Let's talk about Healthy relationships!
A wise person once shared this image with me, and now I’d like to share it with you..
Think about 2 people in a healthy relationship like the capital letter H. Two strong and stable sides, connected in the middle.
In relationships, that’s like 2 strong and stable people, with hearts connected.
So- in this Capital H healthy relationship, each person can stand on their own. They are strong, confident, capable and assertive.
Not aggressive or passive, or passive-aggressive… but assertive.
Contrast this to the Capital Letter A, where the two sides lean on each other.
If this was a relationship, you could imagine that when one person wobbles or has a bad day, it impacts both negatively.
So, in the capital H relationship, when one wobbles, or gets upset, or is “off their game,” the other is strong and stable and can listen and allow space without emotionally toppling over.
This has been a powerful image for me because in my relationships, when the other person wobbles, they need support! They don’t need me to wobble TOO!
And when I can keep this in mind, then it becomes easier to “not get hooked” by the other person's moods and needs, and I can remain in a position of stability and strength so that I can serve.
Is this image helpful for you?
Send me a reply and let me know. Can you relate to the Capital H relationship?
How might you act differently if you were in an A or in an H relationship?
I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!